Barbara Wesley: Reflections on Joining HAVEN's Board

By Barbara Wesley 

I was a licensed clinician for many years, and I have been a volunteer for pretty much all of my life.  After retirement I started looking for something that would involve me more deeply in reaching out and serving people. 

I met Rachelle Currie, HAVEN’s Associate Director, quite by chance, when I was collecting tickets for a fundraiser outside McHenry Mansion. Rachelle had been downtown at “Kick Up Your Heels!” saw that something was going on and stopped to see what it was. We talked, and Rachelle gave me her card.  I came in and met with Rachelle and May Rico, HAVEN’s Executive Director. Within a week I was completing the process of becoming a HAVEN Board member.

I am proud to be a part of HAVEN. 

The core values of this organization are my own values: individual empowerment, societal change, advocacy for those impacted by domestic violence or sexual abuse, or human trafficking; working toward an environment where people can be themselves in their community and in their relationships and can be safe.

I am so impressed with the HAVEN staff at every level. 

These people work so hard, are totally committed to the work they are doing, and support each other.  They are constantly under stress; first at a professional level where they are dealing with people’s lives, and second at a personal level, because they work in an organization where funding is always in a state of fluctuation – consequently there is always a very real worry about their jobs.  And despite all this, they remain a family, committed to Haven’s goals, to each other, and to the people they serve.

There’s more! 

I am also extremely impressed with the level of integrity that HAVEN shows in our usage of the funds we receive from public (government) sources, private organizations and individuals donors.  Every dollar that comes in is wisely and carefully spent, always keeping our mission in mind. Nothing is wasted.  Ever.

I have never regretted for one second joining HAVEN and I am very proud to be even a small part of the difficult and wonderful work we do in this community.

Unique Challenges Faced by LGBTQ+ Survivors

Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking from the LGBTQ+ community often encounter distinct and complex challenges when seeking safety and support.

Understanding these barriers is essential to ensuring that all survivors find the resources and care they need to heal and rebuild their lives.

Key Challenges

• The risk of being “outed”: Seeking help may expose survivors' sexual orientation or gender identity, which can lead to rejection, isolation, or even danger from family, friends, or society.

• Lack of awareness of LGBTQ+-friendly resources: Survivors may not know about specialized services or organizations that are inclusive, leaving them without supportive options tailored to their needs.

• Language and respect: Being misgendered or not addressed by the correct pronouns can trigger pain, alienation, and mistrust. Always ask and respect pronouns.

• Chosen names matter: Survivors may shut down emotionally if their chosen name is not used. Taking the time to confirm and use their preferred name fosters respect and trust.

• Discrimination: Bias from service providers or interactions with non-LGBTQ+ survivors can create unsafe or unwelcoming environments, making it harder for survivors to access the help they need.

Support for LGBTQ+ Survivors

At HAVEN, we recognize and honor the diverse experiences of LGBTQ+ survivors. We are committed to providing inclusive, compassionate, and respectful support for all individuals. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking, please reach out.

📞 Help is just a phone call away:
24/7 Crisis Line: (209) 577-5980
Business Line: (209) 524-4331

Your story matters.
Your safety matters.
We see you, and we’re here to help.

Ways to Support HAVEN in June

Join the Movement for Positive Change!

HAVEN's mission to bring hope and transformation to individuals and communities can be supported in numerous ways this June.

Here’s how you can make a difference:

💖 Make a Donation

One of the simplest and most impactful ways to support HAVEN is by making a donation through our website. Donations are accepted anytime, allowing you to contribute at your convenience. Every dollar goes toward vital programs and initiatives that help uplift and empower those in need.

🌈Join us at “What a Drag 3” on June 28!

Celebrate creativity and inclusivity by attending "What a Drag 3," an exciting evening of performances and artistry. This event will take place on June 28, 2025, at 7:00 PM at the prestigious Gallo Theater for the Arts. It's not just a night of entertainment—it’s a night of meaningful connection and support for HAVEN's cause. Your attendance helps us amplify our message and generate essential funds.

📣 Share on Social Media

You can also support HAVEN by raising awareness about our work and events. Share our website link and details about "What a Drag 3" with friends, family, and on social media. The more people know about HAVEN, the stronger our collective impact will be.

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🙌🏽 Get Involved

If you're looking for a hands-on way to contribute, reach out to us about volunteer opportunities. Whether it’s event assistance or program support, your time and skills make a world of difference.

Businesses can collaborate with HAVEN by sponsoring events like "What a Drag 3" or donating a portion of sales. These partnerships not only benefit HAVEN but also demonstrate a commitment to community and social responsibility.

🤝June is the perfect time to join HAVEN’s efforts.

Whether through donations, event participation, or spreading awareness, your support is invaluable. Together, we can continue to make a lasting impact in the lives of many. Visit our website for more information, and we look forward to seeing you on June 28 at "What a Drag 3"!

Prevention, Not Fear, Is the Path to Ending Sexual Violence

Sexual assault is a devastating and pervasive issue that affects individuals across all demographics, regardless of immigration status, race, or background. Any serious attempt to confront this crisis must be rooted in facts, compassion, and a commitment to evidence-based prevention. Unfortunately, recent political rhetoric, including proclamations that blame undocumented immigrants for a supposed surge in sexual violence, misleads the public, spreads fear, and distracts from meaningful solutions.

One of the biggest challenges in addressing sexual assault is that it is vastly underreported. Survivors often stay silent due to shame, trauma, fear of not being believed, or fear of retaliation. This is especially true in immigrant communities, particularly among undocumented individuals, who may avoid reporting due to fears of deportation, language barriers, or mistrust of law enforcement.

Data on sexual violence is already limited, and becomes even more difficult to assess when we attempt to isolate specific groups. Immigration status is not consistently recorded in law enforcement or criminal justice databases, making it nearly impossible to draw definitive conclusions about the rate of crimes committed by undocumented individuals. Where data is available, such as in Texas, findings vary significantly. Some studies show lower sexual assault conviction rates among undocumented immigrants compared to U.S.-born citizens, while others claim higher rates. These conflicting conclusions reflect the challenges of methodology, reporting, and political bias—not a reliable picture of who commits these crimes.

What we do know is that sexual violence most often occurs between people who know each other, and that the vast majority of perpetrators are men. To prevent sexual violence, we need to invest in education and community-based solutions, not in scapegoating or politicized narratives.

Prevention starts with:

• Comprehensive sex education that includes discussions on consent, boundaries, and healthy relationships.

• Community programs that engage men and boys in stopping violence before it starts.

• Support services that are accessible to all survivors—regardless of immigration status.

• Trust-building between law enforcement and immigrant communities, so survivors feel safe coming forward.

To truly reduce sexual violence, we need to address the real root causes: gender inequality, power dynamics, a lack of education, and systemic barriers to reporting and justice. Weaponizing this issue to advance anti-immigrant agendas does nothing to protect survivors and instead causes further harm by spreading misinformation and dividing communities.

Let’s commit to solutions that empower survivors, prevent abuse before it happens, and bring our communities together, not drive them apart.

Healthy Alternatives to Violent Environments

HAVEN JEDI Committee

Reflections on Joining HAVEN's Board

By Barbara Wesley 

I was a licensed clinician for many years, and I have been a volunteer for pretty much all of my life.  After retirement I started looking for something that would involve me more deeply in reaching out and serving people. 

I met Rachelle Currie, HAVEN’s Associate Director, quite by chance, when I was collecting tickets for a fundraiser outside McHenry Mansion. Rachelle had been downtown at “Kick Up Your Heels!” saw that something was going on and stopped to see what it was. We talked, and Rachelle gave me her card.  I came in and met with Rachelle and May Rico, HAVEN’s Executive Director. Within a week I was completing the process of becoming a HAVEN Board member.

I am proud to be a part of HAVEN. 

The core values of this organization are my own values: individual empowerment, societal change, advocacy for those impacted by domestic violence or sexual abuse, or human trafficking; working toward an environment where people can be themselves in their community and in their relationships and can be safe.

I am so impressed with the HAVEN staff at every level. 

These people work so hard, are totally committed to the work they are doing, and support each other.  They are constantly under stress; first at a professional level where they are dealing with people’s lives, and second at a personal level, because they work in an organization where funding is always in a state of fluctuation – consequently there is always a very real worry about their jobs. 

And despite all this, they remain a family, committed to Haven’s goals, to each other, and to the people they serve.

There’s more! 

I am also extremely impressed with the level of integrity that HAVEN shows in our usage of the funds we receive from public (government) sources, private organizations and individuals donors.  Every dollar that comes in is wisely and carefully spent, always keeping our mission in mind. Nothing is wasted.  Ever.

I have never regretted for one second joining HAVEN and I am very proud to be even a small part of the difficult and wonderful work we do in this community.

HAVEN’s Annual In Their Shoes Walk

By Kathleen Rowe-Glendon

A Sneakerhead's Perspective

As a proud sneakerhead, HAVEN’s Annual In Their Shoes walk on April 25, 2025, is incredibly meaningful to me. This walk is not just another opportunity to showcase my latest kicks; it’s a powerful awareness event hosted by HAVEN to raise understanding about gender-based violence in our community.

A Vital Cause

HAVEN has been providing comprehensive services to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking in Stanislaus County since 1977. Their dedication to supporting survivors and advocating for their rights is unparalleled. The In Their Shoes walk is one of the many ways HAVEN brings attention to these critical issues, galvanizing community support and involvement.

A Walk with Purpose

The In Their Shoes walk is more than just a stroll through the streets; it symbolizes solidarity and a call to action. Participants from all walks of life come together to show their support for survivors and to take a stand against gender-based violence.

Quite literally, walking in someone else's shoes helps foster empathy and understanding, making the invisible struggles of victims visible to all.

Community Impact

Every step taken during the walk sends a message of hope and resilience. The funds raised during this event go directly toward HAVEN’s programs and services, ensuring survivors receive the help they need to rebuild their lives. HAVEN's comprehensive support system is a lifeline for many in our community, from emergency shelters to counseling services.

Get Involved

Whether you’re a sneaker aficionado like me or simply someone who wants to make a difference, I encourage you to join us on April 5, 2025. Lace-up your favorite pair of shoes and walk with us to show your support for survivors and raise awareness about the critical issue of gender-based violence.

Together, we can make a difference, one step at a time.

For In Their Shoes sponsorship, please contact me at krowe-glendon@havenstan.org or at (209) 284-4732.  For event-specific information, please contact Brandy Van Horn at bvanhorn@havenstan.org or at (209) 284-4539.

Introducing Nancy Fisher, Vice President of HAVEN’s Board

Why Haven? 

As a public health nurse, I spent much of my career focused on the health of mothers and their children. As my role expanded my work included issues of concern to the LGBTQ community, older populations and issues related to the broad determinants of health. 

Family/relationship violence affects all segments of our population and has very long-term effects on survivors of all ages. 

When I retired, I chose to focus some of my volunteer time on the work of HAVEN because I saw the importance of the primary, secondary and tertiary prevention work being done with a focus on trauma informed services.

How does HAVEN’s mission speak to you?

The mission of HAVEN speaks to me because I believe everyone should have a chance to live a life of safety and security on their own terms.  The most effective way to do this is not only to work with individuals, but to work in the community and with systems to address family and relationship violence.

Sponsor Spotlight on StanState

A Message from our sponsor:

“HAVEN and Stanislaus State University share a fundamental commitment to empowerment, education, and community well-being.”

Why support HAVEN?

This initiative is not just a sponsorship benefit; it's a commitment to a cause that resonates deeply with our institutional values. Violence, in any form, tears at the fabric of our communities.

HAVEN stands as a beacon of hope, offering support, resources, and refuge to those affected by domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. By supporting HAVEN, we create a safer, more nurturing environment for all individuals.

We believe in empowering survivors, breaking the cycle of violence, and fostering a culture of empathy and support. Every dollar, every resource, and every effort invested in HAVEN is a step toward a world free from violence and fear.

What would be an unexpected result of our long-term support of HAVEN?

One unexpected result of our sustained support for HAVEN could be the ripple effect it creates within our community. As we actively engage in fundraising, advocacy, and awareness campaigns, we provide direct aid to survivors, spark conversations, and inspire others to act. This ripple effect can extend far beyond what we initially envisioned, leading to increased awareness, support networks, and, ultimately, a cultural shift towards intolerance of violence in all its forms.

Our commitment today could sow the seeds for a safer, more compassionate tomorrow.

What do you think HAVEN and Stanislaus State have in common, and what makes this a great partnership?

HAVEN and Stanislaus State University share a fundamental commitment to empowerment, education, and community well-being. Working together, we have created inclusive spaces where individuals feel supported, respected, and valued. Our shared emphasis on education and prevention aligns seamlessly with HAVEN's mission to promote healthy alternatives to violence.

By partnering with HAVEN, we amplify our impact, leveraging our resources, expertise, and platform to effect positive change. Together, we can reach more individuals, provide greater support, and foster a culture of safety and respect within our community.

Our partnership with HAVEN is not just about fulfilling a sponsorship obligation; it's about standing in solidarity with survivors, advocating for change, and building a brighter future for all.

As we walk in their shoes, let's continue to strive for a world where everyone can live free from violence and fear.

Show Us Your Shoes!

HAVEN’s In Their Shoes walk is happening on Saturday, April 6, 2024 and we would love to see your shoes!

This is a shoe-centric event, and we encourage all walkers and attendees to decorate their shoes for our contest. Cinderella once said that a “good pair of shoes can change your life.”  I’m not saying that winning this contest would be life changing but it will certainly validate your artistic skills.

Meander, strut, stroll, race or take your time but walking this mile in your own shoes will certainly alter your perspective, will raise awareness of what HAVEN does in our community and shine a spotlight on gender-based violence and the barriers that our clients during their healing journey.

Please join us and show us your shoes!

REGISTER, SPONSOR or DONATE at 👉 havenstan.org/intheirshoes

If you would like to sponsor this event, please contact me, Kathleen, at (209) 284-4732 or via email at krowe-glendon@havenstan.org. For event-specific information, please contact Brandy at (209) 284-4539 or via email at bvanhorn@havenstan.org

Walking a mile “In Their Shoes”

By Kathleen Rowe-Glendon

Shoes have always been my thing.

When I was younger, I had three pairs. I had one pair of tennis shoes, a pair for school and the third pair was to be worn on special occasions. At the time, I did not think anything of it. But as I became older, shoes became more of a passion I would have to say. I became an equal opportunity collector. They became a fashion staple. I would hate to tell you how many pairs I own now.

When I started working for HAVEN in 2015, I became inspired by the work HAVEN does in our community.

HAVEN has been in Stanislaus County since 1977 and I am honored to be a part of HAVEN’s mission to end gender-based violence in all its forms. 

The shoe-centric portion of my nature immediately became entranced with HAVEN’s two fundraisers:  Kick Up Your Heels and In Their Shoes (formerly know as Walk a Mile). In both events, shoes are a cornerstone which of course sparked my creativity. I completely love working at these events.

HAVEN’s annual In Their Shoes walk is happening on Saturday, April 6, 2024, at Gallo Center for the Arts.

Our participants “walk a mile” to educate our community about sexual violence. Walking a mile “In Their Shoes” leads to a deeper connection and awareness of what survivors’ experience. The walk starts at the Gallo and ends with a celebration hosted by Greens on Tenth. 

Registration starts at 9:00 a.m. I do suggest that you register online. This event is a lot of fun. I encourage you to be creative in your choice of footwear. I know I plan to be. 

If you have any questions or wish to sponsor this event, please reach out to me, Kathleen Rowe-Glendon, at (209) 284-4732 or by email at KRowe-Glendon@havenstan.org.  

I look forward to seeing you there. Please stop by and say “hi.”  We at HAVEN enjoy meeting our community supporters.

How To Support HAVEN This Month

Umpqua Bank Warm Hearts Winter Drive

The challenges faced by individuals and families who find themselves living on the streets increases exponentially during the cold winter months. Help a neighbor in need by making a donation to the Warm Hearts Winter Drive. All donations collected will be provided to over 100 local shelters in our communities to support those in need.  Please go into your local Umpqua Bank located at 1300 K Street, Ste C, Modesto, CA (209-593-6600) or donate online at https://www.umpquabank.com/warmhearts#UBWarmHearts

 Please indicate that you would like the donation to benefit Healthy Alternatives to Violent Environments (HAVEN).

My Walgreens Donation Program

Through December 31, 2023, donate your reward points from MyWalgreens to HAVEN.

HAVEN Holiday Workshop

Please drop off new clothing and unwrapped non-violent toys to HAVEN at 618 13th Street in Modesto.

HAVEN Holiday Campaign

Please go to our website at www.havenstan.org to donate.

If you have any questions, please call or email Kathleen at (209) 284-4732 or krowe-glendon@havenstan.org.

Happy Holidays!

Sponsor Highlight: Health Net

Why HAVEN?

Like HAVEN, Health Net has been serving California communities for over 40 years. We believe that every person deserves a safety net for their health, regardless of age, income, employment status or current state of health. Our years of experience have taught us a few important things, one of them being that the best way to connect with our members is to meet them where they are. That means we must partner with community-based organizations, like HAVEN, who have built trusted relationships with local residents.

What would be an unexpected result of your long-term support of HAVEN?

We’ve learned that where a community support structure does not exist, local leadership from partners like HAVEN is key. Investments must be made to build and support the institutions who know their communities best, and Health Net partners to do exactly that. That’s why we are proud to support HAVEN-led initiatives, like the renovation of the HAVEN Youth Center, expansion of the Healthy And Responsible Relationships Troop (HARRT) program and this year's ‘Kick Up Your Heels’ annual gala.

What do you think HAVEN and Health Net have in common and what makes this a good partnership?

For many people in California, basic health care requires engagement, knowledge about how to get care and access where they live. That’s why we work with community-based organizations, such as HAVEN, county health agencies and other partners to build and maintain innovative programs. Through these partnerships, Health Net is able to listen and see firsthand how every neighborhood has its own unique and important history. This knowledge is critical to helping us identify opportunities that improve local access to quality care for the people we serve.

Empowering Survivors: Navigating the Path to Safety through Haven Legal Services

In the journey to protect survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking, Haven’s Legal Department plays a crucial role in providing support, guidance, and information to individuals navigating the legal system.

Haven currently aids with two types of restraining orders: Domestic Violence Temporary Restraining Order and Civil Harassment Temporary Restraining Order. Temporary Restraining Orders (TROs) stand as crucial legal tools. These orders provide immediate relief and legal safeguards for individuals facing threats to their safety and well-being.

 Here is an overview of Haven Legal Services:

Providing Information to clients about the protection a restraining order can provide.

By supporting clients during the legal process, advocates can support clients as they navigate legal processes, such as court appearances, document submissions, and interactions with law enforcement.

Advocates provide safety planning. Clients having domestic violence or other safety concerns, legal advocates may work with clients to develop safety plans tailored to their individual circumstances.

Legal advocates provide referrals to support services. Connecting clients with additional support services, such as counseling, shelters, and community resources, to address broader needs beyond legal matters.

Advocates collaborate with legal professionals. Advocates can work closely with attorneys, paralegals, and other legal professionals to ensure comprehensive support for their clients.

Advocates empower and educate. Advocates empower clients by providing education on legal processes, enabling them to make informed decisions about their cases.

Crisis Intervention: Advocates provide immediate crisis intervention, especially in situations involving imminent danger or urgent legal matters.

Advocates monitor legal developments. Staying informed about changes in laws and legal procedures.

Legal advocates prioritize client confidentiality.

HAVEN clients often have barriers to access services. Those can be:

1.     Fear of Retaliation

2.     Financial Barriers

3.     Language and Cultural Barriers

4.     Lack of Awareness

5.     Immigration Status

6.     Stigma and Shame

7.     Geographic Isolation

 Addressing these barriers requires a multi-faceted approach, including public awareness campaigns, improved funding for legal aid services, and ongoing efforts to enhance the cultural competence of legal professionals. Legal services need to be not only accessible but also sensitive to the unique challenges faced by survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking.

HAVEN needs your support.

HAVEN has provided comprehensive services to our community since 1977. Your support is needed so that we can continue to support victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. If you are an attorney or a paralegal, please consider donating your services to our clients.  Our clients need your help to continue on their healing journey.

Director's Corner: Update from our Executive Director, May Rico

October 2023 marks 30 years since my first day of training as a HAVEN volunteer. I needed the hours for my school internship, and I wasn't thinking beyond that. Nine months later HAVEN would create a new position in the legal program where I had been volunteering. My first paid position with HAVEN was as a part-time legal advocate assisting shelter residents with restraining orders.

I didn't know I would find a passion in being a legal advocate. Helping with a restraining order means building a bridge between someone in danger and the judge who can grant them safety, and I took that responsibility very seriously. I accompanied survivors at their court hearings and supported them as they struggled for justice and safety in a system that so many times felt like it was pushing them back into the danger they were trying to escape from. At the time I met them, they had already decided to leave, yet time and again they had to justify and explain why they didn’t leave sooner or why they didn’t try harder to get along with the person who had harmed them for the sake of their children.

And I learned a secret: I didn't know how easy it was to terrorize another person and get away with it. I remember thinking, "We have to keep this secret. We can't let anyone know how much safety is an illusion.”  All it takes is for someone to decide they want to target you. And then there's no stopping them."

I'd never had a lot of contact with the criminal justice system, or much reason to need their help. But I always knew if someone was scaring me, there was a system there to keep me safe. I knew that right up until I started working at HAVEN and hearing survivor stories. And then, I knew how vulnerable, and how lucky, I was in this world.

October 2023 also marks the passing of Yvonne Allen, Co-founder of the Stanislaus Women's Refuge Center.  Founded in 1977 by Yvonne Allen and Pat Paul, the Refuge Center provided crisis line and 24-hour safe shelter for women fleeing from domestic violence and their children.
Almost 50 years later that same need for safety still exists, and HAVEN is still here trying to meet it. Thank you for partnering with us in that work.

Passing of Yvonne Allen, HAVEN Co-Founder

It is with a heavy heart that HAVEN shares news of the passing of Yvonne Allen, HAVEN co-founder.

In 1977 when the term "Domestic Violence" was still only a few years old, Yvonne Allen and Pat Paul founded the Stanislaus Women's Refuge Center. It was a crisis line and rental of a three bedroom house with a closet for a counseling office. At a time when you still had to EXPLAIN to most folks why a man shouldn't be able to beat his wife in the privacy of his own home, Pat and Yvonne saw a need for safety in Stanislaus County and worked with others to fill it. A battered women's shelter was founded and was one of the first six such shelters to receive funding by the State of California.

Over 45 years later, HAVEN has expanded its scope to include survivors of sexual assault and human trafficking, restraining order assistance, housing assistance, youth programming, prevention programming, and sits on multiple community collaboratives. Today HAVEN serves survivors of all genders, gender expressions, and sexual orientations at eight locations throughout Stanislaus County.

Yvonne was a fierce advocate for women's rights and reproductive freedom, and that sentiment has always been core to HAVEN's work and values. We will continue to honor her vision in serving our community.

Rest in Power, Yvonne. What is remembered lives.

National Grief Awareness Day

National Grief Awareness Day

There are many misconceptions regarding what happens when a survivor decides to leave a violent relationship.

Leaving is like ripping a band aid off a wound.

The cut may appear to be healed on the surface but there is still healing to be done on the inside. During this healing journey, there are a lot of mixed emotions present. There is relief but there is also sadness, grief, love, and loss. Grieving is something that will happen and is usually not understood by family and friends due to the toxicity of the relationship.

A loss was suffered.

The survivor may be overwhelmed with the loss of who they thought their partner was. They may have lost themselves as a result. There is sadness due to losing the life they expected to have. They grieve the loss of their partner. Due to the isolation and control, they may have also lost loved ones.

This process is not linear.

This grief is a part of a survivor’s healing process. Grief arrives in waves. A survivor has suffered multiple losses up leaving. They may not be able to name the feeling, but it should not be minimized, discouraged, or discounted. No matter how toxic the relationship was, it was a relationship and there was love there.

There is this expectation that a survivor should be embracing their freedom.

That they should be happy because the abuser is out of the picture. It may be difficult to understand that they may be feeling sad and lonely; that they did experience a loss.

What can you do to support a survivor?

Listen without judgment. Give them space. Don’t offer advice. Validate their feelings. Encourage them to reach out to HAVEN. This is an important part of a survivor’s healing journey.

Help is only a phone call away.

If you, or anyone you know, is a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking, please call HAVEN on our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980 or our business line at (209) 524-4331.

National Non-Profit Day

National Non-Profit Day

HAVEN has been providing services to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking in Stanislaus County since 1977. We are a non-profit and we rely on community support to continue to provide desperately needed services to our clients. Our name stands for Healthy Alternatives to Violent Environments. Our advocates are tireless, passionate, and dedicated to empowering the survivors that come through our doors seeking assistance.

Like many non-profits, HAVEN is suffering from the aftermath of COVID-19. In addition to this, some of our grants are ending and there were some that were not renewed.

• Donations are not keeping up with the need.

• We are not able to hire new staff and our existing staff is stretched thin as the demand for our services has increased.

• Our motel program has been impacted by limited funding and our confidential shelter is full. There may be times when we are not able to find a place for them without a more robust motel program. Our clients need safe spaces to heal and to plan their next steps.

• Our Legal and Advocacy Departments are buzzing with activity. These departments help with restraining orders, court accompaniment, peer counseling and support groups. Their waitlist is currently more than a week out.

In honor of National Non-Profit Day, we ask that you donate to HAVEN.

We need your help!

Here are some other ways you have help:

• Sponsor and participate in one of our two fundraising events, Kick Up Your Heels and In Their Shoes.

• Purchase some items from our Amazon Wish List.

• Think about attending our victim advocate training so you can volunteer with us.

• If you are an attorney, see if you can find time to offer your expertise to our clients.

For questions about supporting HAVEN, please call Kathleen at (209) 284-4732 or email at krowe-glendon@havenstan.org.

The Power of Affirmation

The Power of Affirmation

Affirmations sound like such simple things.

Phrases such as “I look great today” and I’m a nice person” usually come to mind. Affirmations are more complex and complicated than those two statements appear to be on the surface. Let’s face it.

We all have negative thoughts about ourselves.

These negative preconceptions can take up space in our head and can cause a lot of damage to self-esteem. Especially, if these messages are coming to you from those you love. Learning to replace negative self-talk with positivity will take both time and effort. Reframe conversations that you have with yourself. Instead of thinking “There’s no way I will get this job,” change the narrative to “I have the necessary skills and experience. I have a great shot at getting this job.”

Consistency is key with affirmations.

With daily practice, you can take charge of your story and take your power back. You have the control and the power to make this change.

We believe in you.

If you, or anyone you know, is a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking, please call HAVEN on our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980 or our business line at (209) 524-4331.

National Self-Care Awareness Day

National Self-Care Awareness Day, July 24

Self-care should be a daily practice.

The word “practice” is used intentionally in this context.
Daily practice of self-care is integral to both mental and physical health. It is a pause button to take a time out for reflection. Life moves fast, self-care is an intentional act to take the time to care for yourself.

Self-care is not selfish; it’s about survival.

For victims of trauma, it can be a lifeline during your healing journey. This practice should be done daily. It is completely unique as what works for someone else may not work for you. Our suggestion is to try different techniques to see if they fit. After all, you wouldn’t buy a pair of shoes without trying them on.

Here are some tips to help you get started with self-care:

• Exercise. Thirty minutes of a chosen activity (such as walking) can help boost your mood.

• Water. Stay hydrated. Watch out for caffeine. It can cause dehydration.

• Healthy, regular meals. A balanced diet will improve your energy and focus.

• Sleep! Stick to a schedule. Turn off your devices when you go to bed. Limit exposure to your devices before bedtime as the blue light can contribute to insomnia.

• Relaxation. Try to find an activity that relaxes you. There are apps that may be able to assist with this. Meditation and breathing exercises may help. The trick here is to schedule regular times to engage in these exercises and other healthy activities such as journaling.

Make yourself a priority.

The daily practice of self-care is a unique but vital component of healing. It may take some time to find what works best for you. Self-care is another tool in your toolbox and will kickstart your healing journey.

If you, or anyone you know, is a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking, please call HAVEN on our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980 or our business line at (209) 524-4331.

Human Trafficking in the LGBTQ+ Community

Human Trafficking in the LGBTQ+ Community

LGBTQ+IA folks are much more likely to be put into what we would call precarious labor.

Precarious labor is the type of work that is low paying, high risk for injury, lacks job protections (e.g., paid under the table, independent contractor, etc.), street-based work (vendors, sex work, selling drugs, etc.) and often leads to exploitation and trafficking.

When there’s nowhere else to turn to, staying in precarious work seems like the only option.

Push factors are the conditions that society creates which marginalizes groups of people. For LGBTQIA+ folks, those push factors may include:

• Transphobia

• Discrimination (housing, employment, shelter options, etc.)

• Immigration status

• Houselessness

Transphobia and discrimination are a common reason for most trans folks, especially youth, to turn to precarious work.

Trans immigrants, often fleeing anti-Trans violence, face multiple types of violence, including xenophobia and deportation. Familial rejection, another form of violence, pushes Trans youth into houselessness. Trans youth make up 40% of houseless youth.

Transphobia, discrimination, and lack of livable wages push LGBTQIA+ folks into precarious work.

Anti-trafficking must include the experiences of LGBTQ+IA folks.

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If you, or anyone you know, is a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking, please call HAVEN on our 24/7 crisis line at (209) 577-5980 or our business line at (209) 524-4331.